Decompressed yet? Part VI: Cafe/resto hang time required?

Here is a $25 entree . . . really?
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Per the INTRO, and Parts I – V,  tracking and journaling and distilling how I experience the re-insertion into my life/world/country/friends/community/career/etc. has been fascinating.  90% of it has been duh yeah that is wisdom some other cat wrote about or told you and you read and studied and has been proven thematically around human happiness across cultures, religions, ages, etc. and hey man you really didn’t need to spend half a year a world away w/ your fam to come up w/ these nuggets! . . .  But I’m one of those experiential knuckleheads who loves the personal translation, the living it, seeing it in the journey . . .
Part VI here we go, spraying on cafe/resto/etc. patronage and value and why  . . .
  • Eating out is the default for so much of our social fabric and is a $$ and time rip off depending on your values/kid status/what you want to accomplish during the time of eating or hanging.  Morning coffee to wife date night to business dinner to lunch — sometimes it makes sense to pay for the context and experience that a cafe/resto offers.  But so overblown mostly what you are paying for is focused face time w/ your party and those around.  Not to hate on some of my favorite peeps who are awesome proprietors of great resto’s/etc.  Love it but wow such a ‘default’ decision most of us make w/out thinking that in many ways is not even the best fit for what you and others in your crew you are meeting want to accomplish. Pay more for less?  You are paying for food, food prep, and context/space to see peeps or “be in” solo.  What is your premium for those?  If you know/care about what you want to eat and how much you want to spend on it value wise and and maybe have kids or some other time premium, the resto is not the value play.  If you want special order food experience or special order social experience you can’t dial in at home or in some other public setting, then that is the sweet spot of resto/cafe.  But if you have kids, care about what you’re eating at nutritional level, are focused on $$/nutritional calorie/etc. . . the resto is not it.  This is not mind blowing stuff, but I find our culture just defaults any kind of date or meet up or business meeting to a resto, which is cool — but face time and nature as context a park a bench or a library or just walking activity are much more “free” — just being cognizant of the “why” you have to hit a resto/cafe/etc. for whatever you are doing is straight smart.  Hi, I’ll meet you at the park bench, the park, the viewpoint, the park, the playground, the bike store, the X store, who cares.  I’ll meet you at point X and we will walk to point Y (X),etc.  Facetiming the virtural world, we don’t have to pay a resto/cafe to hang, or sit on a bench or be in a conf room or chairs . . . we don’t have to make eating/drinking the foci around which we spend time (which is rad but not required) . . . the focus is the connection and the time, make sure you need a cafe/resto to make it happen

More to come :)

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Decompressed yet? Parts I – V : Cleaning your own bathrooms is AWESOME [and four other MIND BLOWING observations from a re-compression]

Per the Decompressed Series Intro tracking and journaling and distilling how I experience the re-insertion into my life/world/country/friends/community/career/etc. has been fascinating.  90% of it has been duh yeah that is wisdom some other cat wrote about or told you and you read and studied and has been proven thematically around human happiness across cultures, religions, ages, etc. and hey man you really didn’t need to spend half a year a world away w/ your fam . . .  But I’m one of those experiential knuckleheads who loves the personal translation, the living it, seeing it in the journey . . .
So here are the First Five (parts 1-5) I’ve distilled.  Not ranked in any particular order, just ten things :)  Five more to follow . . .
  • Part I: Cleaning your own bathrooms is AWESOME.  Why? i. Stay grounded, stay humbled, stay connected w/ your family yeah I said it, but you know what I mean.  ii. Get your workout in by doin it like some bar/p90x/pilates/yoga/whatevs program if you want (I mean you’re supposed to get exercise every day right?) iii. Set an example for your kids iv. meditation, ritual, think time iv. And, about the time you are cleaning the 4th bathroom in your house, you’re kinda like wow do we really need all these bathrooms wtf . . .
  • Part II: We have (had) way too much stuff and mindful divestment of same has been rad.  Not because of some extra $$ here – more just taking stuff we weren’t using and giving it utilitarian life and usefulness for others.  All those crazy markets and gear hackers and ZERO waste (except for littered coke cans and junk food wrappers) in the developing world just stuck . . . having stuff that was useful to someone and not getting it in their hands suddenly became a crime against humanity — it exceeded shame or guilt it was a crime! Giving stuff you don’t want/need away to strangers in person is really, really cool.  Selling it over the interwebs, eBay and Craigslist, etc . . . liberating yourself from stuff you don’t need/use.  Get light. Make someone else happy. Wade around in the transactional morass of the 21st century for real.

Somebody else is stoked to jack the rock, pass it on, Megan has decided she has all the guns she needs :)  Seriously, I haven’t touched this is in at least 10 years pass it on yo …

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  • Part III: I love water.  Like, being in water.  Learning to surf and spending so much time in the water for 5 months was awesome and I found myself missing it greatly . . . not about the exercise of swimming (although that is also cool),  but more about being in the medium.  Mix it up.  Get comfy in an alien environment — water.  Or not comfy. Be uncomfortable.  Comfy is relative.  We don’t have gills . . . we used to, and from water were we born right.  Something in there.  And in the water — no headphones, no computers, no horns or cars or words — just you, suspended, gliding, thrashing, floating, sinking and an incredible world of color and sound and feel to explore on its own. A tri wetsuit and open water swimming and lap pools and goggles and whatevs.  Can’t stay out . . .
  • Part IV: Living simple in the U.S. is crazy hard.  Everything is big and nice and clean and wonderful on a relative basis.  Planet Luxe like I’ve said.  Friends, cars, streets, stores, restaurants, services and goods left right and center. But that comes w/ a cost and price in complexity and dollars.  Of course the U.S. didn’t get it 100% right, maybe not even 50% right!! —  and seeing the opportunity the developing world has to get it “righter” is inspiring and motivating and as an entrepreneur the number of business ideas inspired around what I’m calling the reverse nexus (when tech let’s us reverse engineer our mistakes to how it woulda/coulda/shoulda be if we could build from scratch).  So what do you do about the bits you don’t agree with and a desire to live simple in a rich/complex society?  I tell ya I’ve fought urges to grab my family and run for the hills :) But ultimately this is the world we live in.  Communities, careers, schools, friends, families.  Straight fighting it is counter productive at least for what I have to offer.  But my Socrates and an unexamined life is not worth living are so top of mind that piece of the rejigger is just awesome.
  • Part V: I miss reading books.  On the Odyssey I read 50 books in 5 months.  Mostly health/medical/wellness/biohack and sci fi  (blurry line yo :).   And since back, for shame.  I’m reading — magazines and articles and emails and business plans and pitches and contracts and blah, blah.  All good but books are freaking BOOKS and straight turbocharge your mind and your soul at a different level — like working out a whole different muscle group (in fact, yeah you are working out a different part of your brain).  I digress.  BTW when I say “book” I include ebooks/kindle/etc.  That is how I read 90% of my books.  I’m not talking format don’t care/doesn’t matter.  That said, the battery on my kindle is freaking dead right now for shame pissed.  A top ten fear I rolled around with on the Odyssey was “what if my kindle battery dies and I’m not somewhere I can charge it!!??”  Pardon me while I go charge my kindle, stop spraying, and start reading, a BOOK.

Intro: Decompressed yet? The adventure continues

We are back from the Scott Fam Odyssey 8 weeks now.  After blogging and spraying about our trip and adventure every day for 5 months it was time to decompress/re-compress . . . let it soak in and as mentioned prior see what sticks, what resonates, how we are changed and (maybe more interestingly) how we are NOT.

I have some perspective.  Some, but it’s an ongoing process.  Lot of observations.  I promised myself and others to start blasting them out after 2 months not knowing what was in store wrt taking up our so called lives again as it were . . .

The mix of elation and celebration in the first ~2 weeks back was amazing.  Hugs, downloads, luxury of 1st world, sleeping, trying to get well (me) GI wise, etc.  And the mad wonder and fascination of the 1st world we live in.  It’s like adventure travel in reverse – we got so used to the se asia/indo program that being back in the U.S. was it’s own adventure travel zone.

Like all the best stuff I’ve learned and seen, this was not predicted.   Not good or bad just interesting.  I was in a travel fog at home!  Love it.  Reverse culture shock in full effect.

So many observations and questions and highs and lows, life.  I’ve distilled the relevant journal bits into 10ish observations (ok, some are opinions :) — around the first 8 weeks back, and by popular demand will spray em out over the next few days. Take cover.